Praying For Your Spouse

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Dear Lord,

You know my heart, the secret petitions and desires, the pain that no one knows. You know and understand me better than I possibly can – and you know when my prayers cannot find words.

Today, I open before you everything thing that troubles me. You know my failings and where as a couple, in our own weaknesses we have come short. Help us with the things that seem beyond repair. You can turn our bitterness and remorse into springs of joy.

No blessing we can ever have, can be apart from you. Draw us closer to you, and to each other.

Help us to see things the way you see them, to believe the best of ourselves, and to forgive and love. Birth in us your compassion, and rekindle the desire that seems to have grown cold.

Help us by your strength, to enjoy and serve you together, and to be a testimony of your grace to others.

In Jesus’ name, I pray, amen.

Turning Water Into Wine

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When the roses fade and loving voices grow cold – it perhaps is the time for love to grow more beautiful, in the knowing that comes with time, and the transforming that can only come by the Creator who can turn water into wine.

The Lord Jesus’ first recorded miracle at the wedding in Cana, is a picture of what He still does today. Love, joy and peace flow from His heart of love, and will flood your soul, turning disappointment to joy.

May these thoughts inspire you on the journey of life, and God will make more beautiful your story of love.

Make time for each other, just as you did when you were dating. Set aside an evening once a week for a date night. It can be as simple as going to a coffee shop, a ballroom class, a long walk in the countryside, swimming, hiking, or watching a movie together. Make this more fun by planning something really special once a year.

Think of specific ways to please and serve each other – perhaps, cooking his/her favourite meal, helping around the house, taking care of the children so your spouse can get some ‘me’ time, serving breakfast in bed, or planning a surprise getaway.

Take time for yourself, and invest in your joy, health and comfort. Always look your best, and pamper yourself – for a happy you is the best gift you can give your spouse.

Make your home a cozy nest, creating an ambience of warmth and restfulness. Get creative with setting, décor, candles, fragrances, music – often little things can go a long way in creating that delicate and dreamy atmosphere.

Show your spouse your love and honour by respecting and caring for their family. Friendships deepen and grow when tended well and shared. Allow no manipulation, but always believe the best of others and look for ways to show grace.

Affirm your love for each other, and leave no room for a third voice to create a wedge of discontent or lack of trust.

Take time to just talk, and share anything that is on your heart. Be personal and completely involved in their world, dreams, hope, struggles and fears. In this journey of life, lean on each other, hold on in times rosy and in times of trouble. Never let human imperfections blind you to the gold within. Don’t let go because you see something trivial, though irksome and trying.

Let your spouse know that they will always be number one in your life.

Nothing speaks louder than adaptation, choosing to do things the other person’s way, just because you love them. Sometimes, the smallest gestures speak more than the roses, chocolates and gift-wraps. It perhaps is wiser to be happy, that always needing to be right and have one’s way in everything.

Kindness has the sweetest voice, is alluring, and leaves its touch that can never be forgotten.

Be open with each other about your needs and desires. Ask for feedback, and what your spouse would love for you to do, things that make him/her feel loved, needed and desired. Make each other’s desires your utmost priority, and don’t hold back from each other. It is in giving, that you really receive.

When You Don’t Feel That Loving Anymore

“I wish my husband would listen to me, and spend more time with me.”

“Everything seemed alright. How did we grow so apart?”

“I wish my wife understands how much I love her.”

“It is too far gone to make things alright again.”

If you have said this to yourself, remember, there is still hope. All is not lost. With God, it is not over, until He says so. Only He can, and if we are willing, bring life back into those desert places in our lives. One word from Him, can make the parched land bud and blossom.

Open your heart bare before the Lord, and let every single concern be laid at His feet. Instead of attempting to change things in your own strength, ask Him to help you. Trust Him to speak to your spouse, and birth a fresh desire and love that will not fade but only grow with the coming years.

God specializes in the impossible and no situation is too hard for Him to turn around. Guard your marriage against any third voice. Should there already be a chink in the walls of your home, speak His name and power over this situation. Ask God to fill you with the right words to say at the right time, confront when needed – and trust Him to sever any relationship that threatens your God-given destiny.

God will nudge and lead you to be to your spouse, the person of their dreams, in ways that may seem a little trivial, or just a little out of the ordinary. Follow His leading in whatever He tells you. It may be fancy and sparkling as roses and candle-lit dinners; to more tender gestures of being a listening ear, a comforting and encouraging voice and a helping hand.

What are some of the things you loved to do together when dating? What was it that made you both laugh? What were those things so easy when you first met, but seem too burdensome now, that you did with joy and eagerness?

What if some things could just be undone (or dropped-off and forgotten), and if you could start dating all over again?

What are the things that wouldn’t matter in the light of eternity? Where can you show grace?

Mutual love and respect are the two sides of the coin of healthy marriages. You cannot have one, and not the other. Loving and respecting your spouse is reflected in valuing their opinions, appreciating their difference, honoring even when you differ, and fulfilling each others needs.

Be the voice of love and affirmation to your spouse, the harbor of comfort and encouragement in the midst of the rushing, demanding and challenging world outside. Your genuine adoration and appreciation is what your spouse longs and needs to hear, more than the opinions of others outside home.

Choose to say to your spouse, words of appreciation and genuine love that you would like to hear said to you.

The more you realize how much God loves you, the more of the love you have received will flow through you to your spouse. Christ in the center of your home is the key to “…and they lived happily ever after.”